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Comment on The Perfect Time: Motherhood In My 40′s by Kathy

Kathy — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 17:03:20 +0000

I had my boy at age 45, conceived at 44. I too walked into a fertility clinic with my husband after two miscarriages, full of hope to be knocked down with some of the same phrases…”you waited sooo long…you need to consider a donor egg…you should give up.” I had nothing wrong with me except that I was old, so they said.
It was heart-breaking. I wouldn’t go on Clomid, I didn’t want any intervention. I did however, go on Chinese herbs. I truly believe they helped me conceive. I did have yet another miscarriage. Then conceived just a few months later.
I think motherhood is a personal choice. No one should be telling someone they think they’re too old.
I remember being pregnant at a professional function that was previewing the new tv season shows. One was Dr. Oz talking about motherhood over 40. The woman next to me was appalled. She said there was no way a woman could have the energy to devote to a new child at that age. She had her child before she was 20 so now she was free to enjoy herself and pursue her own interests. And here I was 42 and eight weeks pregnant (that one ended soon after). Had she known would she have said that?
I would love to see your film, Dierdre. I’m sure a lot of us had similar experiences.
I’m just happy that everything is coming out in the open now. It’s good to share our experiences and our wisdom. And younger women should know it might be more difficult, but it’s not impossible to have your babies later in life.

Comment on The Perfect Time: Motherhood In My 40′s by luv4boys

luv4boys — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 11:10:42 +0000

My 4th son was birthed 11 days past my 42nd birthday and though I have had three sons in starting my late twenties through my early thirties, I struggled to have a very very much wanted 4th. I LOVE motherhood at over 40, it is simply the best time..I am fully comfortable in my own skin and though I have been successful in my career – I always felt I had to juggle both and missed the enjoyment of just letting a few balls drop….I was considered a fertility issue too though NONE of my tests indicated it and after 2 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs I had my 4th naturally and he is perfect! Simply perfect!

Comment on Can Food Tame Your Raging Hormones? by Mrs D

Mrs D — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 01:31:29 +0000

I am 42 and trying to conceive. I have not started any menopause symptoms, but I remember when my mom was going through it. I e-mailed her and asked her what she did, since she seemed to sail through it effortlessly. For sure she has a healthy diet, as outlined above. But she did also try to keep her exercise routine up, she was under chiropractic care and she does supplement with Shaklee. Below is her message to me. Please pay attention to what she says about soy.
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I went through menopause pretty easily and so did Elaine. We had a few hot flashes but were able to put up with them. We have also been under Chiropractic care for many years. Many women receive relief just through adjustments. The entire process is about 10 years, 5 before your period stops and 5 after it stops. I was already exercising, using Cinch (Shaklee protein shakes), and taking Omegaguard throughout the process. I did use the menopause regulation complex for about a year (this is a Shaklee supplement specifically created for menopause).

What you need to understand is that the Shaklee soy protein is water washed and not genetically modified, this is very important. These are important factors for insuring that all of the isoflavones are intact. As I understand it the isoflavones attach to the receptors so that the harsh estrogens are washed out of the body and replaced by the milder plant estrogens. Almost all soy milk and soy products in the market are genetically modified (Monsanto) and are alcohol washed. That is why I recommend that my Cinch people mix their shakes with either skim milk or water.

I usually recommend, Energizing Soy Protein (because the cost is less, and there are more servings) Omeguard, and Menopause Regulation Complex to women who are experiencing symptoms. I know that Nedra recommends Cinch instead of ESP because the average woman tends to gain weight during this time and the Cinch helps to keep it in control.

The Omeguard reduces inflammation in the body and I feel that it really helped me.

I have a few women who only take the Menopause Regulation Complex and swear by it; I guess it depends on how severe your symptoms are and how much of a program you are willing to commit to.

Hope this helps.
Mom

Comment on The Perfect Time: Motherhood In My 40′s by Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 01:08:23 +0000

Bravo! As a 44yo woman planning to conceive, your story gives me hope. I am not going to deal with fertility clinics; I have had two failed pregnancies since 41 without the assistance of drugs or IVF, but the same stigma still applies. My most recent miscarriage was only three weeks ago, yet I am hopeful the next one will take. Society can be so cruel, if you’re not Jane Seymour or another over-40 celeb. We are all human; they are not superhuman just because of celebrity status. Keep that in mind, ANYONE trying to conceive after 40. It can happen to YOU! And I wish you all the very best of luck–whatever your choice of conception.

Comment on The Perfect Time: Motherhood In My 40′s by M Gatlin -PVED

M Gatlin -PVED — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 20:27:21 +0000

First if all I think it’s wonderful you had success in conceiving your draughts after age 40!!!

You know Fertility clinics are screwed no matter how you view it. On one hand there atre moms like you who go on to succeed after several round of Clomid, then injectible drugs and finally IVF. Then there ate those that none of that works and they move on to donor egg.

The message that the women I talk to on a daily basis say to me: “Why didn’t someone tell me my fertity would begin to decline at 32 and beyond the age of 40 my chances of success dwindle to about 10% and beyond 44-45 like 1-3%.

Because celebs continue to have babies well beyond their 40′s the general public is receiving the message that it’s easy to have a baby conception wise after 40 when the reality is – its not.

I think having a baby and becoming a mother after 40 is a beautiful thing but going into a fertility clinic with your eyes wide open and advocating for yourself is prudent.

Comment on The Perfect Time: Motherhood In My 40′s by Lylas

Lylas — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 20:23:09 +0000

I sure appreciate your honesty about distancing yourself from a complex childhood. Until all that history was put in perspective, it was impossible to imagine being a good mom. Having that extra time to put it to rest made all the difference for me.

Comment on The Advantages Of Later Motherhood by Donna

Donna — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 02:44:39 +0000

Let me correct myself..I gave birth to a Beautiful Healthy baby Boy from the gift of Daughter donating her eggs to us. Very Blessed I am!

Comment on The Advantages Of Later Motherhood by Donna

Donna — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 02:40:03 +0000

I Must agree as I tried from age 39 to 46 having 10 Miscarriages. I only conceived through IVf with my daughter’s Eggs. It is so Important to not give false hope, but I want to acknowledge that It can happen…My ex-mother-in-law was conceived by her mother at age 46.

Comment on Over-40 Mom Blogs From Ireland by Liska

Liska — Sat, 18 Feb 2012 11:58:23 +0000

I find your story very empowering and I thank you again for following my blog. I am not that much younger than you and also had my first born, also a son. I am also Irish xxxx

Comment on The Advantages Of Later Motherhood by Angel La Liberte

Angel La Liberte — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 16:40:22 +0000

Hello S,
Dr Chun is an OB/GYN, which means he treats women through pregnancy and birth. He does not deal with fertility issues and, in his blog post, he did not discuss the issue of whether his patients conceived naturally or via egg donation. Therefore, all of his information was accurate and based on experience and medical knowledge, and in no way misleading.
Regarding natural conception, I can assure you that I’ve connected with many women who have conceived naturally after 45, and as late as 50. I conceived my second child at 44. Natural conception via a woman’s own eggs after 45 is still possible, although the likelihood of succeeding in conception, or carrying to term is greatly reduced, compared to younger women. Because of this, many fertility doctors will urge women over 40 to use donor eggs, leading to the assumption in many that conception in your 40′s is not possible.
Certainly, all women should check out the fertility facts based on age, as well as the state of their own reproductive health, before choosing a direction. (For more info on fertility and age, check out Dr. Seibel’s guest blog at: http://flowerpowermom.com/making-baby-takes-time/.)
In the end, whether or not to choose egg donation, or attempt natural conception, is a personal choice to be weighed carefully for each woman, depending upon her own unique circumstances, mindset and reproductive capability.